I notice patterns.
In my work with clients, there are similar points that I touch on all-the-time in managing one’s energetic sovereignty in all sorts of everyday situations.
We are human and as such we exchange energy with other humans through voice, thoughts, emotions, and in physical presence, essentially we walk around in a pretty porous-state. This is especially true for women who are conditioned from a young age to be compliant to make everyone else’s life easier.
These are some of the ways I manage my energetic sovereignty around others with really messy boundaries.
This is Mine-That is Yours
I teach this technique to everyone because it is crazy-easy and it has a massive benefit. You can do this with anyone, even your partner, children or your people that you need to show up for but maybe all over the place energetically.
My favorite places to work on boundaries is to go to the market on a Sunday when everyone is there after church.
Why do I pick this time? It’s when I used to have massive panic attacks; always triggered by a crowd of semi-frantic people.
At the time, I didn’t realize I was an empathic sponge and feeling everyone’s stress over being able to pay for their groceries, grief over their lives, and religious guilt and many times oppression just coming out of their church.
It took me a good long time to realize this, then I set out to change that for myself and now it isn’t an issue. I can still feel or “see” what is going on with people so my second strategy applies..
Tell Them They Are Loved
I love this strategy because it’s kindness projected and it takes nothing from you, in fact, you benefit from sharing the energetic frequency of love.
Again practice in the market. It’s as easy as saying/think “You are so loved” to whomever it is projecting their emotions outward or just can’t manage their own internal chaos.
For all you empaths, you don’t need to take on the world’s sorrow. You need to be able to live and navigate the utter chaos that is going on around the planet, or, what help can you be?
All you are doing is letting your soul reassure their souls when you are sending them the energetic frequency of love. Then you practice “and, this is mine; that is yours”.
Your Energetic Donut
Your heart emits an electromagnetic field that is at least 60x stronger than the field emitted from your brain. This is your Torus field, the field your heart emits. When someone is in your space your energy is in contact with their energy.
This is an opportunity to imagine a mesh barrier around you sort of like a big bubble. The objective is to be able to have an energetic and unseen exchange with those around you but not allow in the needy, graspy, bossy, or chaotic energy of others.
Take Up Space
When you are in public, say to yourself, “I give myself permission to take up space”, then do that. When walking, don’t dodge people or maneuver around them (especially men). Men are taught that they own and deserve the space they take up and that (especially) women are to navigate around them.
This requires keeping your head up and meeting eyes with people you are walking toward. If you take public transportation, I would practice here as well. Watch your posture, feel your field outside of your body and hold your space. Men are notorious for doing the man-spread on public transit, spreading out like they are entitled to take up more than they need.
This is another thing to practice in the market.
Watch people do the grocery store dance around each other when they are looking at items. It’s that unspoken “I’ll move out of your way, and you will move out of mine”. Hold that space for just a bit longer than is comfortable. The reason is that the market is a great place to practice taking up space with your Being and your shopping cart.
The Bubble Technique
Envision your torus field, it is truly spectacular energy that your heart emits. Imagining you are in a bubble that your field makes. That’s it. It’s not a brick wall barrier, it’s your own space around your body. This is just another way to look at your field, or to take up space or to really feel into the energetic barrier that you need between you and others.
People in your field?
Can’t manage your energetic sovereignty around others?
Feel like someone’s energy is a major interference in your life?
I can assist you with this.
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